Here is a realization I've had in the last year.
My husband can only help me deal with all the plates that I've got spinning atop these poles if he knows about them.
And if I actually just TELL him how I'm feeling things get a million times better.
Even if it seems silly to vocalize, "I'm feeling grouchy" or "I'm feeling overwhelmed" just saying it out loud...giving it a name...helps.
Oh...wait...EVERYONE knows that...
but there is a difference between intellectually knowing something and then putting it in practice...as I am finding out...