Thursday, June 09, 2005

Why most women like Sex & the City

(Don't jump all over me and think I'm a bad, bad sinner for this post until you read it through.)

Sure, they're scandalous. And talk about and do things that 30 years ago would have completely ostracize them from any decent society. But, there is something magnetic about the show. I can only really speak for myself, but I can't be the only one out there that feels this way.

It isn't the scandal that we're drawn to. I'm sure most people could go their entire life without ever seeing some of the crap on that show.

The thing that is so electric and intensely satisfying for women is the relationships between the 4 women. Seeing how they each have individual relationships with each other, while still maintaining a top level friendship is very easy for the viewer to relate to.

There is just something about seeing 4 girlfriends interact that is so appealing.

It is even the draw for the movie out right now called The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants.

Last night Sarah, Amy, Ja and I went out. It was Sarah's last night as a single girl and we went to eat a very late dessert. We talked and laughed and for a moment I stopped, took in the moment, realized I would never forget where I was and who I was with. It was a movie setting and it made me realize how lucky I am to be one of those girls. And so, in honor of my 3 girlfriends, I've decided to do a character sketch of the 4 of us.

Sarah is the ballsy, gutsy, strong willed, always pushing one. She is the person who works out with a vengeance, who studies with a vengeance, who loves with a vengeance. She is strong and goofy and beautiful. Sarah is the most reliable person you'll ever meet. If she says she'll be somewhere or do something, she is there. On time. With bells on. She'll tell you how it is even if maybe you weren't really wanting to hear it.

Amy is crazy! Last fall she dated her husband for a month, was engaged for 3 weeks and was married. She is so much fun it is really hard to believe she is for real. She is always up for the next adventure and ready to take on whatever. She has had so many interesting experiences in her life that have formed her into the person she is. She can't tell a joke without messing it up, never remembers directions, and is one heck of a longboarder. She is so funny and loud and makes me laugh until I think I might wet my pants.

Ja is quiet....when you first meet her. She is so laid back it is almost unnerving. She is always good natured and I don't think I've ever seen her without a smile on her face. She can tell a great story that puts you right in the action. She is loyal and honest and always agreeable. She makes the best chocolate chip cookies this side of the Mississippi. She has a great sense of style and always looks like a fashion plate.

And then there is me. I'm the planner. I put things together and make sure everyone gets there on time. I'm the conservative, straight laced, inexperienced one. I'm loyal to a fault. I'm not ever the person who gets a crazy idea into their head that starts an adventure, and I'm the only one whose never hiked a 14er. I'm the friend that always tells the others to buy that pair of jeans that you maybe can't afford, but looks so amazing on you that you'd really be a fool not to get them.

And that's us. The 4 of us.


katie said...

I could not agree with you more, Katie. No only to I love Sex in the City, but I have a very close group of girlfriends and every time we are together I wish the night would last forever. It's so comforting to have a support system to laugh with, to cry with, to celebrate the good times with, and to lean on during the bad times.

I have an off the subject questions. You previous post sort of sparked my interest. I have noticed thru your blog as well as some of the others that you have links to that people seem to be getting married or engaged after a very short time together. Is this the norm with LDS? I have a very good friend that is Mormon, so I am familiar with the religion, but this is new to me. You do not seem to be in the same boat though. What is the big rush to get married? Just curious (and sort of clueless)!

Katie said...

At BYU (a mormon private university that I attended) it seemed to be more the norm.

Away from that intense concentration of Mormons, not so much.

Sarah and Colin have been together 2 years.

Ja and her boyfriend have been together 3 years.

(I didn't really portray my friend Amy totally...she had known her husband for almost 3 years. They dated when they first met. She broke it off after a month or so. They stayed friends and he was secretly in love with her. Finally, she came around and decided it was right. When it is right, it is right and what's the point of waiting?)

katie said...

Oh, I wasn't meaning your friends that you talked about in this post. More a few of the links that I just browsed to. Thanks for the explaination though. It's just kind of foreign to me, so that is why I asked. It's interesting though. I agree, when it's right, it's right, I just can't imagine only knowing someone for a month or two before agreeing to marry them. But whatever floats your boat, I guess!

Katie said...

Yeah, that scares me too.

katie said...

Whew, glad I'm not the only one. This comment section is funny because it's just Katie's!

Anonymous said...

Amen Sister. Sing it again.

girl from florida said...

Wow, what a wonderful, well-written post. Beautiful portrayal of your girlfriends & your relationships... kind of like an LDS SATC :)

They are lucky to have a friend like you!! :)

Elle said...

I agree 100% with you on that is the reason SATC is so popular. Your description was great and I just love having a group of girls like that. I'm in the process of having it again and I can't wait!

Becky said...

That was a wonderful post Katie. I remember once my friends and I went out to a late dinner and ended up keeping out waiter around about 2 hours after his shift ended (completely unintentionally!) because we were having such a great time just hanging out and being friends. :) I think I will have to give them a call....(my friends, not the waiter.)

chosha said...

hat repoire between a close knit group of friends is awesome, especially when you are quite different to each other. You get the same subjects from really distinct perspectives. That definitely was what drew me to Sex & the City. It was never the subject matter - that always seemed like they were trying too hard. But the dynamic between them I could so relate to.

trs said...

I just found your blog and have enjoyed reading your entries.

This is going to sound bitter and jaded - but that is who I've become...

How dare you just move to a new city and find a nice ear doctor to fall in love with?!?!? How does that happen?

you young kids have everything so easy now-a-days!

Don't you know that men are supposed to ignore you and not call and fall off the planet while you sit and wonder what's wrong with you?

Don't you know that there are women like me... who turn 35 next Friday .... who are still waiting for men to pull their heads out of their backsides and fall in love with them?

Then here you are all cute and in love... bleech!

When I was your age... women had learned to never utter the word commitment or expect it. We poured ourselves into our careers, assuming everyone else did too... then suddenly, we're thirty - we wake up and everybody's married.

I was tricked.

Enjoy it. Marry young. At least then if you are divorced by the time you're 30 you'll be considered 'normal'!!!

Sorry to come poop on your blog :(
I honestly wish you the best of everything - you seem like a smart and kind and loyal girl (just like me by the way)
I just can't believe how you kids have everything so easy these days.


Katie said...

TRS-don't worry about the "poop." It made me feel lucky.

Also, I didn't just move to a new city and find him. I'd been living here for a year and had been really lonely that whole time.

TRS said...

I hope you know that my above entry was meant to be tongue-in-cheek.

Feeling awfully snarky over the weekend:)


P.S. a year is nothing. Try that in dog years!

christine said...

LOVE sex and the city. feel okay about watching it on tbs cuz they edit out the naughty stuff. still get that withering look when i tell molly's that i watch it. don't care. yay for girlfriends!