Ever heard of that "Languages of Love" book? I borrowed it from my friend James about 5 years ago and just couldn't bring myself to read it all the way through. After reading the first chapter it just seemed too self-helpish for me.
Anyway, what I did get out of the book was the main tenets of the theory (I think).
The author stated that there are 5 different ways that people show and recieve affection.
After at least 5 minutes of thought I think I've determined my own "Language of Love." I think I am tokens of affection.
Normally this wouldn't cause me any concern, let alone enough to write a post about, but a comment left me on my previous post made me stop and think. Is it shallow of me to feel loved through the recieving of physical tokens? Does that make me some kind of Tiffany's bracelet craving, superficial girlfriend?
Who is to say that recieving a note or little gift is a lesser method of expressing affection than wanting to be around someone or telling them you love them?
Because really, for me, when the ear doctor leaves a little treat or surprise on my bed or under my windshield wiper it is just as good or almost better than when we sit on the couch and cuddle. It means that he was thinking of me, even when we weren't together.
And that means a lot to me.