Monday, February 04, 2008

Tell me

The other day I was sitting around minding my own business when a very sweet elderly lady grabbed a hold of my elbow in that way that only elderly ladies can.

She looked me in the eyes, smiled and said, "it's so nice to see how much you and your husband love each other."


Cue my light-up-from-the-tips-of-my-toes-to-the-top-of-my-head smile.



When I make remarks about the ear doctor and I people often shake their heads, roll their eyes and say, "you're newlyweds, give it a year or so and it'll wear off."



UGH.



I don't want this to wear off. We've been married for almost 8 months and he's become an even greater friend than I ever expected. Why do people feel the need to rain on our parade? Why the negativity? Why can't more people be supportive, loving, and sweet like the nice elderly lady whose small, passing comment will be locked in my memory forever?

10 comments:

Holly said...

It won't wear off. It will get deeper and more complicated with little hurts along the way, but still powerful nonetheless.

I started dating my hubby when we were both 15, been married for almost 6 years, and I still look at him in amazement and wonder how I got so lucky.

Also, how cute was that old lady?! How come I never run into nice old ladies like that?

TRS said...

That is so incredibly sweet. Aww.

In fact I find it ironic in some way - because it's the little old couples who have been married for 50 years and are so obviously STILL crazy in love that tickle the bejeebers out of me!

Maybe that's just it. This little old lady has seen enough to know how identify a couple REALLY in love.

That's why other people tend to dampen it - either they don't know it when they see it - and/ or they can't believe it really exists.

I don't know you and I can see you two are MADLY in love!!

Beautiful said...

I know what you mean when others "roll their eyes" when you talk of your love. My husband and I still get it and we are going on 10 years of marriage. It's so wonderful. Like Holly, I too look at my husband in amazement and know how lucky I am.

About old ladies... My husband was at Target the other day with my daughter and this little old lady came up to him and said " People always say "men look so handsome when they are carrying a baby" and I never thought so till now. You look so handsome!" AHHH. It was so sweet. When he told me about this, my heart just fluttered.

I too, don't know you and can feel the love you have for your husband. Beautiful!

Anth said...

Yeah, people who are killjoys are so lame! They're unhappy, so they try to drag you down to their level.

The trick is to surround yourself with people are just as in love with their spouses as you are. Then you can brag about your husband any time you want and your friends will smile happily with you.

ashlynn said...

It won't wear off unless you let it. We have been married 8 years & we still are told we are cute newlyweds.

Seriously - go to the temple & all the old people will love you.

Elle said...

I totally agree!! This is the subject of a post I have been debating on posting...at least until the steam stopped pouring out my ears!

chronicler said...

Just remember Katie, misery loves company. Don't get sucked in! I've been married forever already (33 years) we were high school sweethearts, and I'd still run a mile to get to the temple with him today. I have to say he has the best legs on the planet too! That always makes my girls cringe. ;-)

Just know it lasts as long as you want it to. And I have to say, I agree with the old lady ~ I read your blog because you are so happy with your choices. It is a great pick me up when the world seems blue.

Jessica said...

Don't listen to people like that. We've been together almost 10 years and we like and love each other just as much, even more, than we did in the beginning.

Kellyry said...

I'm not married but it KILLS me when people say things like that. My BIL will often "jokingly" shout, "Don't do it!!!" to some unsuspecting groom. Uhm, yeah. I love the way you love my sister...? Not.

While I am fully aware that marriage is not all chocolate and balloons, why shouldn't we strive for a peaceful, respect-filled marriage? Why the cynicism, people?! Ok, I'm done.

Here's to you & the Ear Dr. getting lots of comments like the old lady's, for all your years to come.

The Kelly Fambam said...

I'm so glad so many people had something to say about this issue! SO many people told Klint not to get married because he would be miserable and marriage doesn't work and etc. We are going on 6 years and we're still crazy about each other! Too many people think marriage is the end-all and be-all of happiness. These people are in turn, disappointed when they realize you still have to fall in love with each other everyday. And that's the great thing about it all! Falling in love everyday? I'm game!